Dreamvisions 7 Radio & TV Network
Episodes
Friday Apr 21, 2023
Friday Apr 21, 2023
Divorce, Finances, and Dividing Your Assets–with Lisa Zeiderman, Esq, CFL, CDFA
Finding out that your partner had an affair is devastating. Not only do you have to navigate the shock, grief, and emotional trauma of finding out that the person you loved cheated on you and betrayed you, but you must also figure out whether you want a divorce, how to divide assets, and how to manage financially for yourself and your children going forward. Which is overwhelming! Lisa Zeiderman is an attorney, CFL, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who can help you understand and navigate the process with grace.
Top take-a-ways:
Understand the steps in the divorce process so you can best prepare for what’s to come.
Get a handle on your finances, assets, and what you can (and cannot) expect in divorce.
Why one of the most important things you can do to protect and preserve your assets is to be mindful of what you say, write, and do.
About Lisa Zeiderman:
Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements for high-net-worth individuals.
Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Woman Attorneys for 2022, as well as a Crain’s New York Notable Diverse Lawyer for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2023, a Super Lawyer in Metro New York since 2019, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among many other awards, Lisa is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. Lisa is also a member of the Forbes Business Council.
In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and Forbes. She is also regularly interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to complex tax issues and child custody, and has been featured in a host of media from The Wall Street Journal to Kiplinger’s, as well as on a multitude of podcasts.
Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the executive board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., the board of Family Legal Care (formerly known as LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today), and as President of the Justice Brandeis Law Society.
About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Apr 14, 2023
Friday Apr 14, 2023
Perfection, Self-Worth, and Affair Recovery
If you are anything like most of the women I work with, you are an amazing woman who tries hard to do things right. You’ve done the heavy lifting in your relationship, responsibly taken care of everyone and everything that needs taking care of, and you’ve always done your best. On the outside, you probably appear to be confident too. But are you worthy of messing up? Do you feel worthy of being a hot mess, making mistakes, and being angry, ugly, and a wreck? Shocking as it seems, that’s what true self-worth is about. Unconditionally loving and accepting yourself in the bad, dark, ugly times. After all, it’s easy to appreciate and love the good. Can you appreciate and love yourself in the bad?
Top take-a-ways:
The false construct of success, perfection, and achievement and how believing that “Because I’m worth it” is empowering, when it really keeps you locked in perfectionism.
Understanding why so many of us seek to make others happy and aren’t even aware of who we are and what we want.
How to “be the cake” instead of the “icing” and learn to validate and appreciate yourself instead of seeking to please others or making everyone else happy – and not you.
Why other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.
About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Apr 07, 2023
Friday Apr 07, 2023
Why Affairs Run in Families, Epigenetics, and Breaking Unhealthy Family Dynamics – with Johanna Lynn
Affairs rock your world and change your life. But they also help you understand deeper truths such as why you love the way you love, how family history and epigenetics impact relationships and separations, and how to resolve conflict – sometimes without even talking about it, but by dealing with your family imprint instead! It all has to do with subconscious patterning and dismantling destructive or unhealthy family patterns.
Top take-a-ways:
Unpacking what led to the affair, what was swept under the rug, and what was missed – so you can wake up to everything that was missed and never be caught off guard again.
Understanding your “Love Blueprint,” how you love, who you love, and why you are attracted to the people you are attracted to.
Why “It isn’t about forgiveness” and “Blame is the cheapest hit of power going.”
About Johanna Lynn:
Johanna is a highly trained systemic therapist who offers resolutions from long standing issues in online classes or private sessions with a focus on restoring relationships and cultivating resilient boundaries by dismantling family patterns. Learn more at www.JohannaLynn.com
About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Coffee With “The Librarians” – Channeled Wisdom for Humanity
This week we’re bringing you a very different show! We’re bringing you a full hour of universal, channeled, wisdom to help you on your betrayal recovery journey. Lora channels a group of entities known as “The Librarians.” The Librarians are keepers of universal wisdom for the earth plane and their messages are meant for seekers of light. Take it slow, pause when you need to pause, and if you like what you hear, follow Lora on Facebook or YouTube where she goes live every Tuesday, with a new, live channel.
Dec.13, 2022
Truth lives inside of us all. And while none of us share the exact same truth, we all share the knowledge that our truth is important. Which is where things get difficult! While it's important for us to share what's going on inside with others, to validate our experience and to create the kinds of close relationships that we want, communication is difficult! Words are limited and cannot explain our unique perspectives, textures, and feelings. Therefore, trying to explain what's going on inside in a way that others can understand is impossible! Yes we try. And we get angry when others don't understand... Oneness comes from the shared understanding that we are all alone in our unique perspectives. That we are all unable to communicate our feelings, wisdom, and knowingness adequately. Oneness comes from being aware and honoring that we are all "right" and we are all centered in our own hearts, and that we are all alone with our own insides, and that our connection is through our unique aloneness.
Dec. 20, 2022
A piece for peace! This week’s message is about the deeper meaning and message behind Winter Solstice and darkness. While reaching outside of ourselves for light is fine because we all need inspiration at times, the task of becoming spirit
Actually awakened is about cultivating the light that’s within, not seeking external light During Winter Solstice we are in the dark for a reason and that reason is so we can find our own light. And the key is not stressing about being “good enough” or “enlightened enough” either. All we need is a PIECE of our light to find PEACE! We don’t need to illuminate the whole world, we just need to illuminate and sustain ourselves. Because Peace on Earth is attained when everyone on the planet illuminates their own hearts!
Dec. 27, 2022
Go in Grace. Go with the Flow. Allow Yourself to Receive. This week's message is about EASE and how we like to make things harder than they are. Ease is our birthright. Worlds (and humans!) are created with ease. Yes, there is the occasional cataclysmic event, but the process flows with ease, always. And when difficulties arise, life flows around those difficulties. Worthiness is not a part of it. We like to make things more difficult to prove to ourselves that we are worthy of being chosen, of receiving, of enjoying. and if you WANT to keep playing that game, you can. Just know that it is a game, and you don't have to play it. You can just flow. That's what GRACE is. It's the right to receive without being worthy. It's the right to love and live and enjoy even though you don't "deserve" to love and live and enjoy. Because the Truth (capitol T truth!) is that everyone deserves it. Nothing is conditional. Nothing is separate from God/Goddess. *Post-channel message: Look at our language around God. In the channel, Lora said he/she referring to God, and then typed God/Goddess. God/Goddess is the whole. Humans have created the separation of the whole into two-God and Goddess. Then humans stress out around gender! Life is genderless. Life is whole and complete. Life is without division. Ease and flow and grace are without division. Struggle and strife are division. Look around, it's everywhere! We love to struggle and overcome and fight and declare ourselves "right" so we can prove our own worth. Just know that it's not necessary. That's why GRACE was given to humans. We only need to receive this one gift if we want to live like Jesus/God/Goddess.
Jan. 3, 2023
When we realize the inevitability of "bad things," it allows us to partake fully in the sweetness of life. This week the Librarians want us to become aware of the cloud of fear that surrounds our hearts and planet, and instead of continuing to build up our defenses to protect against bad things that might (or might not) happen, to realize that "bad things" happening is inevitable. Not to traumatize or scare us, but to realize that protecting ourselves fully is impossible. We have limited control. Yes, we can plan and save or be safe and take precautions and that is good, but we cannot prevent, anticipate, or protect against everything When we realize the inevitability of "bad things" happening in our lives, we become more able to partake in the sweetness of life and we enjoy ourselves more.
Jan 10, 2023
Feeling our feelings is what living is all about. It doesn't matter if they are good feelings, bad feelings, or anything in between. The act of feeling is "fun" and is what being a human is all about. So many humans suppress or deny feelings because they don't want to feel. Yet, in spirit form, one thing we miss is the ability to feel fully and freely! Not that getting caught up in drama is advisable, but please stop being so terrified of feelings that you create unnecessary drama as a distraction from feeling "real" feelings! Yes, we can (and should) be happier than we are. Life is meant to be fun, it's a great game of creation. However, fear of feeling things we don't want to feel is one of the biggest blocks to feeling good. Ironic, right?
Jan. 17, 2023
This week the Librarians want to talk about the concept of "closure" and how it's really not a thing. Nor is it a thing we'd want if there was! When we seek "closure" what we are really doing is refusing to admit or accept or acknowledge something. Something that is a part of us as well as a part of the world. "Seeking closure" is really us saying, "I don't want to deal with that. I want to ignore it. I don't want it in my life. I want to cut it off." But all of life is continuous. All of life is integrated. All of life is connected. There is no death or ending, there is only transition. Which means there is no closure! Instead of resisting or seeking to "fix" something, why not embrace it instead? Embrace the uncertainty, the transition, the ugliness, or the supposed problem? After all, we all say we want oneness and connection. So why do we resist by constantly clamoring about "closure" instead?
Jan. 24, 2023
This week the Librarians want to talk about Connection and Communion with others. Loneliness is prevalent on the planet. Yet we are easily able to communicate with others. We just get too locked into our preferred method of communication! The deepest, most profound connections are made by going within and connecting from the heart or mind. Not by using our 5 senses and communicating with others through touch, voice, text, or words. Death does not separate us. Neither does language, distance, or access to any sort of tools. If we want to feel true oneness, the way to connection is within.
Jan 31, 2023
The only way to address evil in the world is by looking at the ugliness without us. We all cross the line, we all do harm, we all lie, cheat, and steal in some way. When we justify our actions or think we are somehow better than another because we didn't do "as much" harm, we perpetuate evil. It's only when we acknowledge evil or wrongdoing within us that we can begin to change the world.
Feb. 2, 2023
The power of the fresh start cannot be underestimated. There is virtue in a fresh start. Even when you are building something, or building from something that someone else has created, a fresh start will benefit you. There is so much guilt and shame around waste, but nothing, no creation is ever wasted. Whenever you feel like a fresh start is in order, take it! There is no shame. In the long run a fresh start will always be easier than struggling to fix or use the old. Why bang your head? Wipe it away, NO, bless it away! It was your first draft, and it was glorious in its own right. Now start again and do it differently!
About Lora:
Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Mar 24, 2023
Friday Mar 24, 2023
Your D-Day Anniversary – How to Honor Yourself & Cope
Like 9-11 and COVID, survivors of infidelity mark time with “before D-day” or “after D-day.”. Yet unlike 9-11 or COVID, you are profoundly alone in your D-day trauma. Which it makes it vitally important to create your own anniversary “celebration” or way to mark and memorialize all that you have been through. No matter how many D-days you have had, no matter if you are happily married to your cheating partner, are still struggling, or are divorced and done, it is still a moment in your life that needs to be remembered with care, honor, and compassion. Here’s how.
Top take-a-ways:
Attachment styles and how the way you were raised impacts the way you feel in your body, especially during traumatic events and anniversaries such as D-day.
The art of giving yourself now what you needed most then, and re-parenting and re-patterning yourself after upsetting events.
How to create space, time, and healing by “being responsive” to yourself and learning how to meet your own needs.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Mar 17, 2023
Friday Mar 17, 2023
Healing After Infidelity vs. Transforming who you Are –How to Set & Communicate Boundaries
So often we hear about healing after infidelity, affair recovery, or healing from betrayal. But do you want to heal, or do you want to transform? Healing means getting back to how you were before, and most of the women I work with want something better than what they had before. Something more honest, more real, and intimate. Interestingly, the most difficult part of “transforming your life” is typically disrupting the status quo and unraveling what is. Which is the gift of betrayal. Betrayal disrupts the status quo and unravels what is, for you. So all that’s left is for you to come back home to who you are and rebuild your life, your way.
Top take-a-ways:
The process of knowing yourself and showing yourself authentically for who you are so you can transform into the person you were meant to be.
How to set, communicate, and enforce effective boundaries that uphold your highest vision of who you are and what you deserve.
Finding the courage to rise, thrive, and overcome life’s challenges.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Mar 10, 2023
Friday Mar 10, 2023
Protect Yourself After Betrayal – Practically & Emotionally
Life is unpredictable, and while there are steps you can take to protect yourself, none of us can prepare for what’s to come perfectly. We will get hurt. We will make mistakes. Bad things happen to good people. Which is where self-empowerment comes in. Not in a buzz-wordy way, but in deeply powerful type of way. Being fully self-empowered means being okay with what is as well as what will be, because you know that no matter what happens, you can manage yourself. No matter what life brings, you know that you are protected by something greater, and that you will always be okay.
Top take-a-ways:
Steps you can take to legally, financially, and practically protect yourself and your interests after betrayal (or any time at all)
What “bad things happening” to your or in your life says about you
How to find the courage to rise, thrive, and overcome life’s challenges.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Mar 03, 2023
Friday Mar 03, 2023
Can You Learn from the Past to Find (or keep) Love in the Present? with Dr. Thomas Jordan
Have you ever felt like your cheating partner “ruined” your idea of love and relationship, leaving you bitter and hardened? Whether it’s unpacking your own childhood trauma or processing the impact of your partner’s childhood trauma (that then impacted you) the good news is that whatever you learned, you can unlearn.
Top take-a-ways:
Why unhealthy patterns from childhood get replicated in adult relationships
How the familiar (even when it’s not something you want) feels safe and lures you in
Consciously making the decision to unlearn unhealthy behaviors or attitudes about love so you can find and keep the love you want and deserve – without drama.
About Dr. Thomas Jordan:
Dr. Jordan is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He is on the faculty of NYU’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis, author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life and founder of LoveLifeLearningCenter.com. Dr. Jordan specializes in the treatment of unhealthy love lives and has been studying them for over 30 years.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Feb 17, 2023
Friday Feb 17, 2023
Feeling Empowered, Sexy & Free after Betrayal – With Jolie Dawn
Betrayal takes many forms, but its impact remains significant. And even the seemingly “old traumas” and incidents from childhood have an effect on our present lives and relationships. Today’s guest is a spunky young woman who is wiser than women twice her age and is not afraid to do the hard and often times messy work of loving herself while daring to live from a place of joy.
Top take-a-ways:
Leaning into abundance and joy even when life has flipped you sideways and you need time to stop and heal
The power of asking yourself questions and journaling the response as a means of gaining clarity on yourself and your life.
What it means to feel sexy while also respecting yourself and your body, and giving yourself grace to make mistakes.
About Jolie Dawn:
Jolie Dawn is the author of Empowered, Sexy, and Free and creator of the Dare to Prosper Challenge, the largest women’s prosperity meditation gathering online, attended by women in more than fifty countries. She specializes in helping women awaken their prosperity consciousness, embody their deepest truth, and reclaim personal freedom and creativity. An intuitive business coach and writer, she currently contributes to Entrepreneur magazine, and she has written six bestselling self-published books. Visit her online at http://www.joliedawn.com.
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT
Friday Feb 10, 2023
Friday Feb 10, 2023
Your Divorce Survival Guide – With Kate Anthony
Are you having trouble deciding whether you should stay or go? Is part of that indecisions because you are afraid of what divorce might do to your kids? Then this is the show for you! As Kate says, “Do not let the promises be the things that keep you in the relationship. Let the actions be the things that bring you back.”
Top take-a-ways:
Excavating yourself and getting back in the front seat of your own live, so you can determine who you are and what you want.
Looking at the relationship objectively and seeing where it’s in alignment, and out of alignment, with who you are and what you want.
The definition of love, and what “But I love him!” really means for you and your relationship journey.
Understanding emotional abuse and coercion.
Love this show and want some more? Check out Kate's interview with Lora on her podcast, Your Divorce Survival Guide! https://kateanthony.com/podcast/life-after-betrayal-with-lora-cheadle/
Kate Anthony is the host of the New York Times recommended podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, and a certified coach with over a decade’s worth of experience helping women (with children in pa
rticular) make the most difficult decision of their lives: should I stay or should I go? She also helps divorcing moms recover from toxic, emotionally abusive marriages in the most collaborative way possible, always putting their children at the center — never in the middle — of all their decisions.
Learn more about Kate at: https://kateanthony.com/ and continue the goodness by checking out Lora’s interview on Kate’s podcast too! https://kateanthony.com/podcast/
Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!
Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!
Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT